Nonhlanhla Dube, 28 is from Ermelo in the Gert Sibande district . Nine years ago, while attending my last year in high school, I met my ex-sugar daddy , with whom I became friends. He was a big business man in the district. Things were amazing. I even thought it was a love at first sight, but I was fooling myself.
After a month he was taking me to five stars hotels, the first time we had sexual intercourse, I pulled a condom in my bag and gave it to him. He said “we are in love; there’s no need for a condom”. He asked me in his sexy voice whether I didn’t trust him, because he trusted me.
We never used a condom then.
I decided to test for HIV because I heard talk of him having a wife, but when I asked him he just denied everything.
On the 1st of April 2004, I went for a Voluntary Counselling and Testing (VCT) and my test results were positive. It was horrifying to find that I was HIV-positive and immediately after my results I stop seeing him because I was so angry at him.
I met the wonderful, HIV-negative man I’m married to now and he was there when I needed support the most. I fell in love with him. He became my best friend, my biggest strength and my source of information, but mostly my true love. We joined TAC and that’s where I learn more about the HI-virus. I’m blessed with two beautiful, sweet daughters.
As parents we are teaching them about challenges of life and happiness as well. I already had forgiven the sugar daddy so that I can move on with my life, because forgiving is the only key of success.
If I only knew what I know now, I wouldn’t date an older man.
Cynthia Maseko is an OurHealth Citizen Journalist reporting from the Gert Sibande health district in Mpumalanga.